Friends and I cohosted a baby shower for another good friend today. While cleaning up we were just shootin’ the shit and I mentioned how when someone offers me something I often say no thank you before even considering if I need/want it.
For instance, if I am getting a haircut and the assistant offers me water or coffee I say no thanks – and then often realize I am actually thirsty and free water would kick some thirst behind.
It seems to be my instant reaction to deny a kind gesture without even giving it much thought. Immediately I do not want to be a burden. Most of the time it is someone whose job it is to offer me this <insert whatever> so it makes even less sense that I would feel like a burden.
And the strange thing is that I’m not an introverted person. I will ask for what I want in a job situation or at home. I would bet my friends would describe me as someone who does not shy away from life.
So why the frick can’t I just accept a glass of water or a seat when it is offered??
I tend to do that too, but lately I’m finding out that it’s okay to say “you know, actually I WOULD like something to drink after all!” They are only too happy to oblige. It’s okay to change your mind – you are a woman after all! 😉
I do this to. I didn’t really realize this until you mentioned it.
I definitely do this as well. I don’t know why. It’s just instinct .