I have been half-heartedly bringing home foods that I like. I have made all foods “legal” and feel fine in that area. But I am not buying tons and tons to fill my cupboards up. Mainly because I just don’t have the finances to do so - not sure how to get around that.
I keep a box of Trader Joe’s frozen cookie dough in my freezer regularly. I had just been keeping one box and then buying another soon after those were gobbled up (which is a definite). This was keeping me pretty happy, until the other night. I had 3 left (the dough is formed in to small cookies) and was about the enjoy them when my husband asked to have one.
Egads! You would have thought he asked for one of my lungs. I felt immediately threatened by this request. Those are my cookies, dammit. They were my special treat.
I told him I would rather not share.
Being that my husband is a normal eater, he thought my reaction was absurd and was annoyed by me. How ridiculous it is that I didn’t want to share one measly cookie. And he’s pretty much right. So we went back and forth a bit - he had some sweet treats in the home, why didn’t he eat those, he says he likes chocolate chip cookies too, yadda yadda yadda.
I basically laid it out for him - sorry, I know it seems crazy, but these are the last and it is a big deal for me to give even one up. I’d rather not share tonight. BUT, I promise to buy enough on my next Trader Joe’s trip for both of us and keep enough in the house so that this is not an issue. The whole thing reminded me of the wife in When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies (or maybe it was their other book) whose husband was annoyed she wouldn’t share her Hershey bars. She ended up going out right then and buying a ton for her entire family - keeping hers off limits. I held on to that story in my mind, to help not feel so alone in my insanity.
My husband ended up being cool about the whole thing and now we have two boxes of chocolate chip cookies in the freezer. I plan to restock as soon as that second one in opened.
Oh my gosh, you could’ve written the exact same drama I go throguh with my brother - only difference there is it’s an unfair fight as my parents wade into the debate and gang up against me. I’m not allowed any of ‘his’ foods, but apparently ‘my’ foods are free game; which makes me even more defensive of ‘my’ foods. “YOU NO TOUCHIE. *HISS*”
Great post!
That same thing happens with me only it’s my kids who are always after my stuff - and then I wonder why my son won’t share with his sister!
I go through similar with my daughter. I’ve begun buying her her own stuff and if she runs out before the next shopping trip, then she’s out, period. I keep a couple of treats in my own room, though. And since I only eat one or two at a time (tootsie rolls or hard candy or such), then I offer the same amount to my SO (to relieve the not-sharing guilt, lol).